“Failure to Launch”
There is an epidemic happening… It’s called “Failure to Launch” Syndrome. I am seeing it every day. My now 21-year-old daughter, who is single, has a lot of guy friends, and they pretty much all have it.
It’s driving her, and her single girlfriends crazy. These guys are between the ages of 23 and 30-something. They don’t want girlfriends. Because if they have one, she’ll eventually want to get married, and that means they would have to grow up and become responsible for not just themselves, but her as well. And they would have to move out of their parent’s house, pay their own bills, rent, insurance, and buy groceries. And that means they would have to work harder to earn more money that they could no longer spend for their own cars, toys, trips, and entertainment. And THAT would be MISERABLE! Right?
So, I ask myself, who’s to blame here? Is it the lazy, selfish guys out there, or is it their enabling parents?
I personally, think the parents are to blame, for the most part. These guys aren’t dumb. They have figured out a brilliant plan to “have it all”. They enjoy “NCMO” (Non Commital Making Out) with the girls, to satisfy that need, while they enjoy the party life on their parents’ dime.
Meanwhile, there are thousands of ambitious, beautiful, and intelligent girls out there, who would love to find their soul mate and get on with their lives, if they could only find a guy who is willing to give up the party life for something better.
A good part of this problem would be solved if parents would “cut the apron strings” and push these guys out of the “nest” unless they’re in school full time, working to pay for their education, and contributing to the household maintenance.
It really is a problem.
In epidemic proportions.
I couldn’t agree more! It is so sad, because money & a successful career aren’t the things that will keep them warm at night. I blame the parents for enabling them & I also blame the guys themselves for refusing to step up & be MEN. When I was in the dating game, it was a major red flag if a guy still lived at home & not in school or was still single in his 30′s. Beware of losers & serial daters!